Waiting For The Right Person 3/17/2021

 Good Morning,

Happy St Patrick's Day to you. Before anyone asks, No I am not drinking green Coffee. However my mug is filled with Door County Irish Creme Coffee.

My wife and I will be observing the day with  corn beef and Swiss cheese sandwiches tonight instead of the usual pot of meat, cabbage and potatoes. So, let's write.

Divorce courts never seem to lack for customers. I have a theory on that. Let me share. People are made to be relational and many young girls start dreaming of their wedding at a very young age and boys start realizing that girls don't have cooties and are nice to be with. Being relationally wired we seek companionship and we meet people that we make us feel good about being with them. We are physically attracted to them also and that is wired into us as well.  But too many people head into deeper relationships, investing a lot of time into them. Some feel like this has to be the person and even though they know deep down inside it's not. They won't back out.  They work at changing the person they are attracted to. Most people by marriage age are really not "changeable". O yes they can learn some better habits, but what you see now is what the future holds. 

We are unwilling to wait because a break up hurts and who wants to be alone. Waiting for the right person is hard to do, especially in this age of instant everything. No one is perfect but we should wait until we find someone who fills the role of the following passage.

1 Corinthians 13:4-8 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 

No one is perfect, but if the person you are interested in, can't hit most of these traits consistently for you and others, maybe you should wait. If that certain person, doesn't bring these traits out in you, maybe you should wait before heading to marriage. Wait for God to send someone who has these traits and brings out the best in you also. You will avoid an avalanche of heartache and problems. 

Marty